Your past does not define you…

Now before we delve into the depths of my colourful past, let me get one thing straight, I dont believe I have had a ‘bad‘ or a ‘good‘ past. I think life happens just the way it is supposed to. If it didn’t, we would not be the people we are today.

So when people go on about ‘having a bad childhood‘ and that it has kept them from achieving certains things in their life, I think that is bullshit.

We all have the power to change any aspects of our thoughts and reality.

When I was growing up, we didn’t have much. We were on the breadline. So from an early age I really have learnt to appreciate everything. Now that is something I have struggled with recently, as I think many people in today’s age do, but I will speak about that another time.

I remember as a kid my mum used to shop at a place called Netto. Now if you’re a 90’s kid growing up in the UK you surely remember this budget supermarket. It was the place where a tin of beans would cost twelve pence and you could do your weekly shop on a peasant’s purse. Now when I turned up to school with my dinner in a flashy new Netto ‘bag for life‘, I would get called a ‘tramp‘ and get laughed at. Why was this? Didn’t everybody’s mother shop at Netto? What was so bad about it?

I think this early memory altered my perception on how things should be. I now believed that I should shop at expensive places for ‘fear of being judged‘.

How stupid is this?? 

What I have learnt as I have grown is that people will always judge, people will always be there to point and laugh, but it is because of their own insecurities.

At this point in my life, I couldn’t give a shit.

You point and laugh all you want whilst I sit here with this money I just saved from shopping at my ‘budget‘ supermarkets 😉.

It goes with everything in life really. People are far too scared of doing things out of fear of what other people think. The truth is, it really doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what Julie from down the road thinks about you. It doesn’t matter what Steve from work thinks.

All that matters is what you think, how you feel.

We all have the power to change our future, no matter how ‘bad‘ our past was.

What I want you to do is to start now, think of something in your past that has been ‘holding you back‘ and tell it to hit the road. Tell yourself that as of today this past experience is not going to affect your life. Tell it to yourself over and over again, really drill it into your mind. You might be surprised at how powerful this process really is……..


Wishing you health and happiness,

James Murphy.

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